For some, having some time by themselves may seem like a refreshing change, but when you are an adult living alone at home, perpetual loneliness can get you down. We all need human contact at least some of the time. We at Cherish Care know that being an adult living alone can feel isolating, and if you are in ill health, that isolation can become even more evident.
‘Poor health can sometimes lead to isolation and loneliness, and companionship can make a really positive difference to general wellbeing. We always make sure that our visits aren’t just about providing practical care and assistance. Our Personal Carers are warm and friendly people, always happy to chat and provide companionship – their visits become something to look forward to.
Everyone enjoys getting out and about and that shouldn’t have to change just because you’re less mobile. With Cherish Care there’s no need to miss out on the social events you enjoy. Whether you simply want to visit a friend, go shopping or attend an appointment we’ll help you maintain your independence by arranging for a Personal Carer to take you and stay with you.’
But there are some ways you can help yourself to live alone without feeling lonely.
Introduce Yourself to the Neighbours
It may feel like you live in a neighbourhood that isn’t particularly sociable. This may be purely logistical, and in the winter, we all shut ourselves up indoors more. Open your curtains to the world. When the weather is fine and if you have a bench in your front garden, perhaps sit outside. Say hello to your neighbours as they pass by. Or if you feel able to, knock on their door and introduce yourself – try to cultivate these local relationships. When you break the ice, neighbours may even become friends. Try to re-establish old connections; be it family or old friends.
Have a Routine
Having a schedule is a key way to fight loneliness. If you plan out your day; be it a walk in the morning around your local park, or writing in your journal/diary in the afternoon, your time will feel better spent and more fulfilling. That long, boring day stretching out in front of you doesn’t have to be like that. Sit down and make a list of how you would logistically like to spend the ideal day, and work that into a schedule. Routinely do the things you enjoy, and make time to fit those activities into your day at regular times.
Pets make wonderful companions. Loving animals like dogs and cats can be just like a member of the family. However, if a dog or a cat is simply unmanageable for you, don’t forget there are smaller animals that need less attention, like fish. If the cleaning and maintenance of animals is too difficult, you can have a birdfeeder placed just outside your window. It is this interaction with living creatures that can keep loneliness at bay.
Hobbies are essential for keeping the mind active and filling the day. Do something creative – write a story or paint a picture, you may find you have a hidden talent! If you like cooking, try out a new recipe. If you are in good health, think about volunteering. What’s more, hobbies don’t have to be something you practice alone. Join a local club; you are bound to meet like-minded people like you.
Feeling lonely can be hard for anyone, but for an adult living alone at home day-in, day-out, this can become tiresome. So look out for triggers that set off your lonely periods. Use some of the tips above to stave off loneliness. Think about all the positives in living alone. But most of all, try to engage with others whenever you have the opportunity. Living alone doesn’t have to be lonely.
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Age UK 0800 169 6565
Samaritans 116 123
Mind 0300 123 3393